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Last night there was an exercise in class that had a good lesson on trust. It is another example of how important it is to strive for truth, even when the truth is not “acceptable”. Two students were working and they were having difficulty expressing their real opinion about the other, mostly because that opinion was negative and they didn’t want to have a negative opinion about their partner. After all, we’re all acting students. We should get along, right?

This suppressing of expression built up and built up and then exploded out in a burst of negative emotion. It was traumatic and unsettling for everyone in class. But once it came out, the air started to clear.

So what’s this about “trust” then? Many times, to really express how we’re feeling, we feel like we’re in a safe environment. We need to trust that the other person isn’t out to get us. Part of what made the exercise difficult for the students was that one of the students was saying the “right” or “correct” thing (something like “I’m sorry that you’re upset”) but that didn’t match his behavior at all. When there is a disconnect between what the other person says and the behavior, we inherently don’t trust that person. The more intense the situation, the more personal the behavior is, the more important it is to be as upfront as possible about how you feel about it.

This holds true even when how you feel is the opposite of political correctness. If you find you are prejudiced (I think everyone is, but that’s the subject of another post!) or racist or sexist or anything else that is “unacceptable” in society, it does no good for you or your partner to keep that in. When we interact with people in a normal everyday setting we are politically correct because we don’t have to stay in that interaction. But acting is much more like being locked in a cabin with someone. If you’re really doing it well, you don’t pull away from them. And that means that the sooner you get everything out in the open, the sooner you can move on to something else.

In my experience, it is so important and humanizing to share a moment of intense, politically incorrect opinion and then see what lies beyond it: what is the human reaction to that weakness or bigotry? If both actors are working from the agreement that they are not out to hurt the other, then from that moment will spring a very deep connection and understanding in both of them.

And the alternative to not getting your opinion out is…? Hold it in? Wish it weren’t there? Try to change it? All of that just brings your attention back to yourself as you try to manage this inappropriate opinion. No good. Get it out there, get the monkey off your back and move on. Focus on what it does to your partner. That will allow you to move to the next moment.

And if what you say and matches up to your true opinions, then your partner will trust you, even if he hates you (in that moment!)

One of the key things to remember with this concept is that this specifically in regards to acting. We have very good reasons for being polite in our normal everyday world. Politeness serves a social function. If it didn’t, we wouldn’t use it. It greases the wheels of social interaction and allows us to move forward without getting too involved in non-essential interactions.

So why is it such a bad thing for our acting? It is precisely for why it’s a “good” thing in civilized society! In acting, we don’t want to sidestep potentially negative (or intensely positive, for that matter) interactions with others! Those are exactly the kind of interactions we are seeking out! By holding onto the idea of being polite, considerate and even kind (when consideration and kindness come out of a sense of social obligation), we stop ourselves from really feeling deeply about the other person.

Politeness by definition gets in the way of us expressing how we truly feel. It takes us out of the moment, because every impulse, every response must be checked for the impact it might have on the other person. That takes a lot of attention away from what’s happening around us and puts it back on us. In acting, at the foundation, we want a free expression of how we feel. And that freedom comes from the complete lack of self-censorship.

But then you’re asking me to be rude! you might think. No. Being rude, in this context is not the opposite of being polite. Rudeness implies that you’re trying to have an effect on the other person: you’re trying to move them in some way. But in this exercise, we are neither trying to “help” the other person by keeping the truth from them, nor hurt them by attacking them or being mean to them. Our goal is simply to tell them the truth as we see it. Simply express to them how we feel about them, to let out our reactions to their behavior as fully as possible. It’s cliche, but we strive to do it the way a 2 year old would on the playground. Not out to get someone or try to make it easier on them. Just simply tell them the truth.

Yesterday in class we talked about something that happens “normal” repetition exercise when partners look intensely at each other.  The habit, which is not at all a requirement of the exercise, becomes overwhelming to the point when we are not able to take in something about our partner if we don’t see it with our eyes.

To get the point of how rich and interesting behavior that isn’t visual can be, we had students do a repetition exercise through a closed door: each on one side of the door. All of a sudden, they were listening to small changes in intonation and word choice. Pauses took on special significance. The extra concentration the students had to put into listening made them loose their own inner monitor and allowed them to freely express themselves in the moment. And the exercise retained a lot of that flexibility and freedom when the pair worked then face to face.

It’s very good to embrace not only the visual but all 5 of the senses. The sense of touch (which I think also includes the sense of distance from someone and the tension that that can bring) is especially strong. Usually in an exercise, we don’t get to use our sense of taste that much, but it could come up and how interesting when it does! Smell is also one that we give short shrift to. And with bad smells, it really challenges our sense of what we can say or what we are allowed to admit about our partner.

Not only is moving beyond the need to stare at our partner a very good thing for the moment to moment work (it allows us to take in so much more information about the partner), it also gets us out of the problem some students face when they then have to work on stage and deal with an audience.

Being aware of the audience and being “open” to the audience (with your face visible to them) is extremely important for a stage actor. Being in visual contact with the audience is often more highly valued than being in visual contact with the other actors. It is not uncommon for actors to be having a conversation but instead of facing each other, they face the audience. In such cases, it is imperative that the actors are still taking in everything about their partner. They just aren’t able to do it with the sense of sight. Train your other senses, too!